We are stepping out on faith.
Since meeting our Bella's birthmom several months ago, we have prayed for the unborn child she is carrying. We really enjoyed meeting her, and have spent alot of time praying for her lifestyle, her safety and the wellbeing of this child. We figured this child would be another baby destined for foster care, since the birthmom has such a struggle with a typical, responsible lifestyle. We think of her as a sweet, kind woman who has made some very devasting choices. For herself, and her children.
This past week has connected us again with this young woman, due to the fact that she contacted an attorney with the intent to place this unborn child up for adoption. She has chosen us to become the parents.
We are getting used to the idea. We had hoped for it, and were actually very disappointed earlier in her pregnancy when she decided, against advice from her family, that she wanted to try to keep this baby. Without all the details put down here, let's just say we felt that was an impossibility for her to undertake, and 5 children have already been placed with other families. We did not understand how she thought she could raise a child, when so much of her life she was not able to even care for herself. So we prayed for her and the baby.
Now that we have been named as the prospective adopting parents, it changes several things in our home. First off, this is going to be an inner state adoption. I will need to live in the state where the baby is born until her adoption is secured. There is fingerprinting clearances that we will be waiting on results for, and all the piles of paperwork that the attorneys (ours and hers) need to complete. We will take physical custody of the baby upon her birth, but our family will be apart until it is final. Fortunately, we will be just across the state line, and I will not have to go for weeks without being with my other children. We will have a temporary home with a friend and I will still be able to be be a part of the daily happenings here. Fortunately, we had recently completed our Ethiopian homestudy, so that was a big piece of this puzzle that leads us to the new baby.
However, since our homestudy was done as part of our Ethiopian plans, we have now had to put the Ethiopian adoption off. Our homestudy states that each child must come in birth order, so with this baby coming to us in April, our International Adoption must be put on hold until the youngest is 9 months old. That isn't a big ordeal to us, except the paperwork will need to be started over in December. There will be little that will still be effective. Our hearts still consider a child across the seas that is going to be a part of our home eventually, and will follow the steps to where God leads us when the time is right.
We believe God has brought us to this point where we are available and nearly paper-ready to adopt domestically. It was not a part of our initial adoption plan, but we have found out that is exactly how God works. Our heart has always been to follow God's leading, especially since the last seven children entered our lives. We found out that God's plan is always a step above all that we could ask or think of, and we are excited about the new baby we are waiting for.
It's been interesting to hear others' views on our new baby. We find those who know us best can often be the most negative. We don't like to defend our decisions, but at the same time, how can we ever describe the plans God has for us? We just hope to be willing, prepared and faithful to HIS calling.
We will be excited to share our good news when the baby is born. It's a girl - and we can't wait to hold her, love her and introduce her to the family. Thanks for your prayers during the last few weeks she has with her birth mom before she enters this world.
We are stepping out on faith, believing God will meet all our needs. There are blessings ahead for our family, in the form of a tiny miracle that we didn't plan on. And that FAITH will carry us in the weeks and months ahead.
1 comment:
I'm trying to get caught up on blog reading since returning from Ethiopia so imagine my surprise and excitement to read your news. Congratulations! I hope all works out well for your family and espcially for this birth mother and the baby that she will soon be handing over into the loving arms of her new mommy and daddy.
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